I like to use song lyrics to make points in my blog and sometimes my references are a bit strange. I do it for fun. In this post its at the end and a bit of a stretch.
Knowledge@Wharton is a weekly online newsletter. No, I am not a Wharton graduate, but I enjoy their topics and writing. I wanted to be a Wharton grad, but the cost was prohibitive at the time (Now the time is prohibitive). Of particular interest is an article/interview recently published titled “Givers vs. Takers: The Surprising Truth about Who Gets Ahead”. You can read it at http://is.gd/gjxU2S. (I know a blog that links you to another blog – like you have time to read both!)
The article is interesting as it discusses people’s differences in their preferences for reciprocity. I enjoy networking with my peers and I recommend the use of networking to help achieve goals (career, sales, investments, charitable endeavors, etc.) To me the cardinal rule of networking is “What can I do for you.” Further, I don’t look for reciprocity. So if I help you, I am not expecting that you owe me one. It seems most of my connections both in social media and in real life (as if my social network connections are not part of my real life – they are!) abide by this rule.
I have tried many times to do things on my own, without the help of others and make it work. Like a young child trying to pour a glass of milk from a full gallon container. You offer help only to have them tell you firmly “I can do it!” Then the milk is everywhere. I have TRIED to learn that I can achieve more with the help of others and need to ask for advice, council and leverage the experience and sometime the network of others to progress.
Bottom line, give more and you will feel more comfortable asking more. From the article “I found that in sales, the most productive sales people are actually those who put their customers’ interests first.” This is sales 101 or the golden rule and applies everywhere, not just in sales. Treating others the way you wish to be treated, helping people without the expectation of something in return. Because (and here it comes):
the boatman won’t be waiting and he’s leaving here with you
And you can’t take it with you
No matter what you do
No you can’t take it with you
Not the place you’re going to